a little background

hi, my name is mandy and I have two amazing little boys. My oldest son, Ty, has been diagnosed with autism (which is what you will read most about in this blog); I also have Tripp, who is an amazing little brother to Ty (who you will also hear alot about). I was encouraged to start this blog to document our journey through life and life with autism... my world has been rocked in last few years and i have responded in good ways and bad ... but Jesus has gotten me through all of it...

i hope i can be an encouragement to you, and for the friends and family that will read this - maybe this will keep you posted indepth on what Ty is learning! :) and the adventures of Tripp too

thank you for reading, and if you have any questions, comments or smart remarks; feel free to post them.

Monday, April 9, 2012

sometimes it's best to be vague

I received an email from a friend of mine entitled "free stress seminar" ... have I mentioned that I love clever emails and sayings? Well I do!
OK so the email starts off telling a story of a lady teaching a stress seminar and she is holding a glass of water and everyone in the audience is waiting for her to ask the question "is the glass half empty or full?!" and she throws the curve ball asking "How much does this glass weigh"? And then goes on to explain that no matter the weight; if you hold that same glass of water all day you will eventually get an ache and the longer you hold it the more the pain/ache will increase until you can't bare to hold that small glass of water.  So the moral of the story is to put the glass down, rest. Don't carry all your burdens all of the time. That is what the bible says right?! *slap* (in my face)

Then the email lists lots of clever sayings and the one that stuck out to me the most was:

"If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague" I LOVE THIS!

I definitely think in my world it is best to be vague most of the time! It's not that I can't be kind, it's just that there are so many times that I begin to talk to people and realize halfway through the conversation that I have just spilled my guts without knowing it about life/autism... and I can see in their eyes that they either have no idea what I'm talking about or they would have rather I just said "we are good thanks for asking". You are probably thinking that I have just contradicted myself with the whole "share your burdens" and "be vague" motto's. But I think they can go hand in hand. I have some pretty amazing friends that I will share details of my life with ... but for the most part I think the rest of the world wants me to be vague.


  1. Love reading about you and your family. Reminds me of our Cohen and I don't want to ever forget! My favorite saying....The older I get, the better I USED to be! Your new saying could be...The older I get, the more I learn, the better Mom I become. Those two boys are lucky to have YOU! Beverly Roberson

  2. you are so sweet! :) thank you so much for the encouraging words! I'm very sorry about Cohen and I know his memory lives on in each of you! :)

  3. I totally get it. Often, I use the word "interesting". Like if you meet someone and they tell you they build rockets for a living, you can give them an....interesting. Or if a friend asks you how you like their new hair cut and its bad, you can say....interesting. Its the ultimate vague word. Very applicable for most situations. The decency to be vague. Im gonna forward you an article about "meek doesnt mean weak". Our choice of words, as Christians, are paramount and finding that middle ground in life is important.
    love ya,

  4. that's awesome B! i will definately be using that :) love yall too!! i'll be looking for that article!