a little background

hi, my name is mandy and I have two amazing little boys. My oldest son, Ty, has been diagnosed with autism (which is what you will read most about in this blog); I also have Tripp, who is an amazing little brother to Ty (who you will also hear alot about). I was encouraged to start this blog to document our journey through life and life with autism... my world has been rocked in last few years and i have responded in good ways and bad ... but Jesus has gotten me through all of it...

i hope i can be an encouragement to you, and for the friends and family that will read this - maybe this will keep you posted indepth on what Ty is learning! :) and the adventures of Tripp too

thank you for reading, and if you have any questions, comments or smart remarks; feel free to post them.

Tuesday, June 26, 2012

VBS, I love my church!!!

Ok, so most folks know I'm slightly paranoid about Ty doing new things without me or Sam.  Not because I don't trust others, but because I don't know if they are ready for Ty and then if they aren't ready for him would they tell me or be scared of hurting my feelings, etc (maybe it is a trust issue???).... So this year I couldn't really do much at VBS because I had to work, but Tripp & Brayden (my nephew) were going and I just didn't feel right sending Ty to daycare without his brother and cousin just because I was scared/paranoid/hesitant. Bible school only lasted half a day and my awesome mother in law would pick up the boys and keep them until Sam or I got off work.  Now my church family is amazing! I have never seen a more loving group in my life?! They are so good to Ty, so I knew he would be loved and taken care of, but there was still a fear of the unknown and a bunch of what if's ... but I let him go, and I am so glad that I did. I talked with a few of the teachers before I sent him just to make sure that they would have enough bodies available to handle him (no he's not terrible and yes they are around him every week, but like I said I'm a bit paranoid when it comes to this...)  I basically had a live feed from all the youth and others that would text me or send me pics of all the things he did during the day. From what I hear his favorite part was music, Kamrie went with Ty two of the days and she sent me pics and videos of the boys doing different things, and that was just awesome. I could see how much fun they were having and how excited they were to be there, it just made my heart smile. :) Tripp was so excited everyday for bible school, if it was up to him he would have bible school year round! On Sunday night they had the family night, where everyone comes in the kids sing some songs, show some pics, pick up crafts, then eat and hangout... During the slideshow there was a section of pics of just Ty titled "Ty at VBS" (or something similar) and I just melted/cried .... I know that's silly but it just made me realize that I worried for nothing... I was paranoid for nothing... God's got this under control, alot of times I see myself going through life like a race car - full speed with everyone strapped in as tight as possible dodging whatever is being thrown our way, hoping "if I can just get through this" when what I really need to do is get my foot off the gas, let go of the wheel, and just cruise along in the passenger seat... So to everyone that I bugged the week of VBS, thanks for putting up with me! :) I love you all! And to everyone that had a part in our VBS - Thanks for all you do! It was Amazing! :)

The Beach!

So we finally took our boys to the beach!!! It was a very short trip, but we do have to start somewhere. We weren't really sure how well the boys would do in a hotel and then on the open terrain of the beach so we started out close to home. Sam made reservations at the Candlewood Suites in Slidell (only 97$ a night and it has a full kitchen?!) and then we drove 30 minutes to Pass Christian on Saturday to play on beach. Who knew you had to pack so much stuff just for one night ?! It's not that I travel light anywhere I go, but I just kept running inside and grabbing more stuff, "what if we need this, what if we need that.." I'm sure you all know what I'm talking about. I left work a little early and Sam and I packed the truck, headed to town to get the boys and then off on the open road! Have I mentioned that I love road trips?! Tripp has inherited this trait from me :) he was so excited to go somewhere, anywhere really, the boy loves to just ride and end up places. So when we both picked them up from "school" Tripp was super excited, especially when he remembered that we were going to the beach & Ty was so happy playing birds and dancing to the music in the truck (when I say dancing, he has a rapper style hand bob that cracks me up and he just sits and bounces his hand to the beat of the music, and sometimes will sway back and forth, it is pretty hilarious and awesome!).  They did have the "he's touching me" fights that all kids have and at one point Ty got mad that Tripp wouldn't let him have something and Ty basically started slamming his arm in a karate style motion at Tripp's head but other than that the actual road trip was great!

Friday night we took the boys out to eat at Chili's. I think Sam was a little more skeptical about this than I was, but he had good reason to be. When we sat down Tripp had to potty so Sam took him to the bathroom and while they were gone Ty decided we should clear the table, so he threw his paper menu and ipad at some nice ladies sitting at the table across from us. I just smiled and apologized & then positioned Ty as close to me as possible so that I could use my super hero skills to stop any other flying objects, lol. The rest of the dinner went well, I think after we got settled in and Ty realized what was going on, he was ok with us being there and especially once the food and drinks arrived he knew it was time to eat. Looking back, he probably got mad bc everyone else had food and he didn't??? But now he will know what to expect :) and so will we! (We've taken him out to eat before but never really to a "sit down restaurant").  Anywho, once we made it to the hotel we took the boys swimming in the pool.  I think they could have swam all night, we had Ty's floaty on before we left the room bc I knew that as soon as he saw water he would be in it as fast as possible, and he was! Getting out of the pool was chaotic to say the least and I'm pretty sure we woke up everyone sleeping on our floor before we made it in the room? But such is life?!

Saturday morning was a typical morning with our boys, up by 630 or 7, eat breakfast, play, etc. As we were getting everything together, Ty would run, climb on the bed and then jump off of it. We tried our best to stop him each time, but we were not always successful. We also put flip flops on him (he doesn't wear them often) and he thought it was fun to just stomp in them (I'm guessing bc of the noise). Well the folks under us started banging on their ceiling and then our phone rang and when I answered they hung up. I guess when you are in a hotel and someone above you is louder than you like, you are suppose to call and hang up and bang on your ceiling??? At first I wanted to get mad, but then I looked at Sam and he seemed to not really care and we were leaving anyway, so we just left it at that. I mean what do you do? So we were off to the beach! As soon as Ty's feet hit the sand he ran full speed from the truck to the water and drug me all the way there. Once he hit the waves he just stopped and giggled. He would get shovels and throw them in the water and just watch them roll in and out with the waves. He would chase the shovels or flip flops up and down the beach and pick them up and go again. But if you picked them up he would get mad, I was allowed to step on them in the water to stop it from going any further but he had to pick it up? Tripp played in the sand mostly, and he was very skittish of the water and when Ty would throw things in the waves Tripp would start screaming "get it! get it! Get Ty! Get Ty" One of us was constantly with each of them so they weren't going anywhere but Tripp was not convinced. I guess he gets that from me too, I'm a bit more paranoid than I need to be and sometimes it's just best to back off and let them be kids, right? That's what I keep telling myself.  Sam dug the boys a trench to catch water from the waves, we built sand castles and just had an awesome day!

It was nice to get out and just do things as a family.  There are a lot of times that we don't get out and we don't do things just because it's easier to stay home.  We have everything we need or want so why go anywhere? But I think it's good for the boys to go places and see things. To learn how to act in public or how not to act? haha.  For Ty especially to learn boundaries when there are no physical boundaries, no child proof locks on all cabinets and doors and there's no fence around the beach (I did think about buying a portable one lol), but he still needs to experience these things and so do we. We need to learn to just let him be kid like everyone else. But still meet his needs let him learn in his own way.

I know I ramble alot, so thanks for reading and keeping up with us! sorry it's been so long! :)